• Serenity

    “God grant me the serenityTo accept the things I cannot change;Courage to change the things I can;And wisdom to know the difference.” Reinhold Niebuhr I’m sure you already know this beautiful prayer, although it’s so easy to forget, especially when life starts to get batshit! Serenity is defined as ‘the state of being calm, peaceful and untroubled’ and for me, it’s the Holy Grail of emotional states.  So when life’s stressful and  feeling out of your control, take some time to remember the prayer of Serenity, close your eyes, drop your shoulders and breathe. Remember it’s not about freedom from the storm but peace amid the storm, and who doesn’t…

  • The River Crossing

    Two monks were walking along the banks of a river. They saw a young woman who was afraid to cross. Although the monks had taken vows never to touch a woman, the older monk picked her up and carried her to the other side of the river. The younger monk was angry about it all day. The two didn’t speak until sunset, when they were allowed to break their vow of silence. Then the angry younger monk accused the older monk of polluting not only himself but also the whole order. The older monk simply answered, “I put the woman down on the other side of the river early this…

  • Love, Lulu and Lipstick!

    A few years ago I met fashion designer Lulu Guinness… who I love, and I mean really love! We got chatting (which sounds wonderfully casual). In reality I was having a champagne fuelled, full on – fangirl moment (the bubbles were free!). We talked about work, and I told her all about Mascara for the Mind, and how I was helping women improve the relationship they had with themselves, in a fun and solution focused way (I’m all about one off coaching sessions) . I was writing a book at the time, and the strap-line was ‘Sometimes all you need is a sweep of mascara and you’re ready to face…

  • Bird by Bird

    This always helps me when I feel overwhelmed… “Thirty years ago my older brother, who was ten years old at the time, was trying to get a report on birds written that he’d had three months to write. [It] was due the next day. We were out at our family cabin in Bolinas, and he was at the kitchen table close to tears, surrounded by binder paper and pencils and unopened books on birds, immobilised by the hugeness of the task ahead. Then my father sat down beside him, put his arm around my brother’s shoulder, and said. ‘Bird by bird, buddy. Just take it bird by bird.'” Anne Lamott…

  • You Do You

      It’s life, but not as we know it… and we are all dealing with this situation in our own unique way and that’s perfectly fine. If you want to start baking banana bread (am I the only person not doing?) or learn Japanese, then that’s just subarashi (fabulous)! If lying in bed, reading and eating biscuits gets you through then I recommend The Flatshare by Beth O’Leary and custard creams. Do whatever works for you. You can be inspired by other people without putting any pressure on yourself. It’s such a stressful time, so take your wins where you can, even if some days that’s just dragging a brush…

  • Still I Rise

      You may write me down in history With your bitter, twisted lies, You may trod me in the very dirt But still, like dust, I’ll rise.   Does my sassiness upset you? Why are you beset with gloom? ‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells Pumping in my living room.   Just like moons and like suns, With the certainty of tides, Just like hopes springing high, Still I’ll rise.   Did you want to see me broken? Bowed head and lowered eyes? Shoulders falling down like teardrops, Weakened by my soulful cries?   Does my haughtiness offend you? Don’t you take it awful hard ‘Cause I laugh…

  • Hello Autumn…

    “If a year was tucked inside of a clock, then Autumn would be the magic hour” Victoria Erickson I love Autumn! I’ve still got that New Term feeling even though we are in October (how did that happen?!). As a child it was all about the new school shoes, bag and stationery and to be honest… it still is! Autumn, for me is a new start, a feeling of hope and a whisper that anything is possible. A clear reminder that with just a shake of the Etch A Sketch or the turning of a crisp new notebook page, we can start again, anytime we choose. I’m embracing Autumn and…

  • Mascara for the Mind is Back!

    Hello I’m Zoe, Welcome to my shiny new blog, where I’ll be sharing with you my thoughts, ideas, top tips, tools and techniques on how to improve the relationship you have with yourself. I believe it’s the most important relationship you will ever have, and this one is guaranteed to last a life time! A positive relationship, influences your happiness and well being, whilst having a huge impact on your thoughts, feelings, interactions and relationships with other people. Giving you the confidence to be yourself, to life a live you love, a life that is congruent with your values and beliefs. Being in a negative relationship with yourself leads to…